9 Tips for Overwhelmed Moms: You Can Get Through This!
Tired? Overwhelmed? Kids not listening, fighting constantly?
We’ve all been there and believe me when I say you are not alone! It’s been a rough past few weeks at our place. Kids sick, baby not sleeping, kids fighting, kids waking us up at all hours of the night and did I mention all the kids fighting and yelling? What is with that anyway?
My husband works and when he is home he isn’t much help. So what are us mom’s to do when we’ve reached that point where there’s just so much we have to deal with and we can’t anymore?
Over the past 11 years of being a mom I’ve found many tips and tricks to deal with doing it all. So here is my take and if you find yourself stressed, overwhelmed or just at the point of losing your mind because you are just doing too much, hopefully these can help!
1. Cleaning CAN wait – Yep, it’s true. Cleaning can wait. You don’t have to tackle everything in one day, or even two. Take a break. I promise, the cleaning will still be there when you get to it and no one will judge you for some toys on the floor or laundry in the hamper.
2. Take a nap – Have a baby? Nap when they do, have older kids? Introduce quiet time. They can chill out in your bed with you.. They can read a book or even just rest themselves. Taking a nap or having quiet time benefits everyone don’t be afraid to do this.
3. Take a bubble bath – When your husband comes home from work go have a relaxing bubble bath. I do this often. Most times when my kids are tucked into bed, other times when my husband walks in the door. Yep, a 20 minute bubble bath can do wonders for you and give daddy time with the kiddos.
4. Sleep alone – Yep. Don’t be afraid to tell your hubby to retreat to the couch for a night. I haven’t done this in a while, but when I have, it was great. Don’t get me wrong I love when my hubby is beside me but sometimes, just sometimes, it’s nice to spread out and just sleep. I won’t fool you though, I always have at least 1 baby in the bed with me too so I guess it’s not exactly sleeping alone.
5. Do some Yoga! – This is a new one for me but it’s oh so relaxing. My kids love to come and do yoga with me. It’s quiet, and peaceful, it even helps them when they are a bit overly hyper and need some quiet time too. Relaxing for all.
6. Take the kids to play – Indoor play areas are so fun or even the neighbourhood Park. Getting out of the house or having a few minutes by yourself doesn’t have to mean the kids have to be left with dad, someone else or asleep. They can have some fun while you sit and enjoy or even join in with them. Going down slides, playing in a ball pit with your kids laughing and squealing is one of the best feelings and ways to make you forget all the other stuff that may be weighing you down.
7. Call up a girlfriend and chat – Girl talk! Who doesn’t love girl talk? I don’t have any friends with 6 kids, OK, I don’t have any friends with more than 3 kids so often they don’t get exactly what I am juggling but they are mom’s, and get it so talking to them helps and even if we don’t talk about our problems and issues just having an adult conversation makes me feel human again.
8. Have a date night in – Put the kids to bed early, cook a nice meal with your hubby, sit down and relax. Rent a movie or just sit and talk. Do whatever, but do it alone. With your spouse. You don’t have to go out to have special date night. You don’t even have to spend money.
9. Ask for help! – If you need help don’t be afraid to ask for it. Friends, Family or even your husband will probably be a little more understanding than you think and will probably help if you need it. I know what it’s like not wanting to ask, and wanting to do everything for yourself, but it can be too much. If needed, Ask, you won’t regret it
I was and still am quite often guilty of not taking me time. I feel guilty and bad but I’ve come to learn quickly it is VERY important. Once you have multiple kids, heck even one or two, you can’t forget about yourself. You can’t neglect yourself. I am so guilty of this, and I’ve been working on it. I know all too well what it’s like to get little to no help at home, have any time to yourself or even be able to breathe without someone on you, grabbing at your shirt or screaming for you. I get it.
Parenting is so rewarding, and amazing that sometimes we can get so wrapped up in them and trying to be the best parent we can be and forget about ourselves. We can feel less than stellar, very overwhelmed and even stressed out and that’s okay. You are not alone, this is a common feeling and the only way to feel better is to make sure you do take some time for yourself. You’d be surprised how much better you may feel with just a few minutes of peace.
I always felt guilty when I needed to have some time to get work done, or have a shower and lock the door. But don’t. If you feel you are dealing with so much and are overwhelmed take a little time for you. I promise, everyone will feel better after!
What do you do when you are feeling a bit overwhelmed in life?